A wedding vow is a lifetime promise between a bride and groom in which they share their feelings for each other and their pledges for the future.
We've all seen a million weddings on TV and they pretty much stick with the tried and true traditional wedding vows. You know the phrases: "To have and to hold." "In sickness and in health." "'Till death do us part." "As long as we both shall live."
Those tried and true lines are fine and will certainly get the job done. However, an increasingly popular trend finds couples writing and reciting their own modern wedding vows. There are many sources of free sample wedding vows for future brides and grooms who want to learn how to write wedding vows and get an idea of what others are saying at their ceremonies. The trend is also popular with couples that are working on second marriage wedding vows and renewing wedding vows.
A word or two of caution applies to anyone who is thinking of creative wedding vows that are funny, silly, or humorous. Humor can be very subjective. Most services are attended by people from varying age groups and what might sound cool or fun to the bride and groom might come across as mocking the seriousness of the occasion to some of the older guests.
The best examples are those that are both personal and universal at the same time. That means that the couple creates their own thoughts in their own words, but the sentiment is instantly understood and recognizable to all at the ceremony.
Even personalized wedding vows that are considered non-traditional or alternative can still be acceptable for religious ceremonies. The officiant should be more than glad to look over and comment on the pre-written vows prior to the ceremony. In fact, he or she will probably insist on it!
The following paragraphs contain some tips for couples working on their original vows.
Couples should think about all the reasons they want to be with each other. Putting themselves back in the psychological mood of their early relationship is helpful for this exercise.
Throughout history, there have been many examples preserved of romantic writings between couples. There is nothing wrong with being inspired by some of the great poets of past centuries or some of the words of Shakespeare as his characters profess their undying love for each other.
It is best for the bride and groom to work on their own list of things they might want to say on the special day separately at first and then come together to share the lists to see which areas overlap and which may inspire further consideration.